If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me, “So… what’s your success rate?” I could retire early and sip cocktails on a beach while Cupid takes over my job.
But really — what does that even mean?
Are we talking:
The percentage of first dates that don’t end with someone sneaking out the bathroom window?
The couples who made it past the three-month Netflix password-sharing milestone?
Or the ones who made it all the way to marriage, kids, and a shared Costco membership?
Because here’s the truth: success in relationships isn’t a straight line.
Can You Quantify Love?
We love to measure things — calories, steps, sleep cycles, stock portfolios. But try putting a number on falling in love, or learning to communicate vulnerably, or realizing for the first time that you deserve better than the bare minimum.
Those are wins too. And no, they don’t fit neatly into a percentage.
If a client learns to set boundaries for the first time in her dating life, is that a success? (I’d argue yes.)
If someone dates three people and finally realizes what they’re truly looking for, is that a success? (Absolutely.)
If someone leaves a toxic pattern behind, even without a wedding ring at the end of it, is that success? (You bet.)
What People Are Really Asking
When someone asks me about my “success rate,” I think what they really want to know is:
“Do people actually find love through you?”
“Can you help someone like me?”
“Will I feel safe trusting you with my heart?”
And those are the questions I love answering.
Because success isn’t just about who walks down the aisle. It’s about growth, clarity, connection, and yes — sometimes finding a partner who truly fits.
So the next time someone asks about my “success rate,” I might just say:
“100%. Because everyone who works with me learns something that makes love easier, clearer, and more intentional.”
(And hey, no one’s run out the bathroom window on my watch… yet. I’m counting that as a win.)
