Look, I get it. Grey’s Anatomy gave us one of the best friendship phrases ever when Meredith Grey looked at Cristina Yang and said, “You’re my person.”It was tender. It was iconic. It was friendship goals for an entire generation.But somewhere along the way, “my person” got hijacked by Instagram captions and wedding vows — and now everyone’s calling their spouse, fiancé, or partner “my person.”And as a dating coach, I’m here to say: we need to stop.Your Person Was Never Supposed to Be Your Plus-OneThe whole point of Meredith and Cristina’s “person” thing was that they weren’t lovers. It was a declaration that friendship — real, loyal, life-saving friendship — could be just as important as romance.Calling your romantic partner “my person” kind of… flattens that. It makes it sound like friendship and partnership are interchangeable — and they’re not.As a Dating Guru, Here’s Why I CareI spend my days helping women figure out what they actually need from a partner. And guess what? A partner isn’t supposed to fill every emotional need you have. That’s way too much pressure for one human.When you call your partner “my person,” you risk making them your only person. You stop calling your best friend first. You stop investing in the friendships that keep you grounded and sane.Your friendships deserve their own pedestal. They deserve their own sacred language.Give Romance Its Own TitleYour partner might be your co-pilot, your home team, your favorite human on earth — but they’re not “your person.” They are something even bigger: the person you’re building a whole shared life with.So let’s give romance its own words and let “my person” keep meaning what it meant on Grey’s Anatomy — a declaration of friendship so strong, you know who you’d call if you needed to bury a body.
